the privacy of our bedroom

I had this one event recently, when a relative of mine come for a sleepover at my house...zulffi was not at home that night..he was working till 7am..so after Subuh, I slept back as I was quite tired as Zaffran woke quite a lot that night..when suddenly that girl,which is not actually a small girl anyway, a teen to be exact just barge in into my room ..barge in as in just open my bedroom door n just came into the room without knocking nor asking for permission n directly went to see whther Zaffran already woken up or not..of couse he was n he was playing quietly with his toys besides me...n it was not even 7am yet... I was at that time soooo pissed off plus having a mild tachycardia becos she just barge in....I feel like scolding her but I refrain myself..if she was my sibs, I would have done soo...

I feel violated, angry n quite pissed off...what is Im wearing those sexy nighties ( which Im not actually) or doing sumtg else besides sleeping....n even if Im sleeping maybe Im in a horrible pose or sleeping with my mouth open large or snoring loudly.....Im going to be soooo embarassed...

n the other time, another realtive just goes into my bedrrom just to see Zaffran baby cot!!!urghh..when I have said NOOOO!!

it makes me note into my head to teach my son manners when he is still young to LEARN KNOCKING ON PEOPLE'S DOOR BEFORE ENTERING!!!!doesnt matter if its a house or just a bedroom door or any door..just KNOCK!!!

my parents teach us to knock on doors before entering even when we were still small..its just been embedded in my mind that u hve to knock on peolpe's door till now..esp bedroom door..my mum still knock on my bedroom door if she needs anytg....

and there is this pharases in Quran bout this that I still remember from my parents teaching when we were small . It said :

“Wahai orang-orang yang beriman, hendaklah hamba-hamba kamu dan orang-orang yang belum baligh dari kalangan kamu, meminta izin kepada kamu (sebelum masuk ke tempat kamu, dalam tiga masa iaitu sebelum sembahyang subuh, ketika kamu membuka pakaian kerana kepanasan tengah hari, dan sesudah sembahyang Isyak; itulah tiga masa bagi kamu (yang biasanya terdedah aurat kamu padanya). Kamu dan mereka tidaklah bersalah kemudian daripada tiga masa yang tersebut, (kerana mereka) orang-orang yang selalu keluar masuk kepada kamu, dan kamu masing-masing sentiasa berhubung rapat antara satu dengan yang lain. Demikianlah Allah menerangkan kepada kamu ayat-ayatNya (yang rnenjelaskan hukum-hukumNya), dan (ingatlah) Allah Maha Mengetahui, lagi Maha Bijaksana. Dan apabila kanak-kanak dari kalangan kamu telah baligh, maka hendaklah mereka meminta izin sama seperti cara orang-orang (yang telah cukup umur) yang tersebut dahulu, meminta izin. Demikianlah Allah menerangkan kepada kamu ayat-ayatNya (yang rnenjelaskan hukum-hukumNya) dan (ingatlah) Allah Maha Mengetahui, lagi Maha Bijaksana”.

An-Nur ayat 58-59

this is the huraian I got from THIS BLOG bout this ayat..'

Berdasarkan ayat di atas jelas bahawa rumah dan segala isinya merupakan 'harta' yang menjadi benteng maruah kepada sesebuah keluarga. Bilik tidur pula menjadi benteng terakhir yang harus dijaga adab-adabnya. Oleh itu anak-anak yang masih kecil mahu pun yang telah dewasa harus dididik menghargai dan menghormati tempat tidur ibubapa, terutama waktu-waktu ibubapa beristirehat.

see even dlm Alquran pun ada sebut psl minta izin sblum msuk blik orang...!!

I know the time that she came in doesnt really apply in this situation but still..manners manners manners....

Im quite a private person in some ways...for me, my bedroom is sacred...for me, my hubby n my son only..for now...when he's older, mybe not...I never went into people's bedroom unless invited except from my sis's room..it took me almost three years of marriage for me to go into my MIL bedroom for the 1st time bcos she never invites me in..n that is to take my son out from the room...besides that?no...

when I was growing up, I dont like people to go into my bedroom..partly bcos I dont want my sibs to mess up my things or find my secrets or anyhtg like that..n partly bcos my parents doesnt really teach us to go into other people's bedroom without permission..when I was small, I was quite afraid or reluctant to go into my parents' room without them asking us to...n when I am older only I had the nerve to go into my mum's bedroom only when she's doing sumtg in the room and i need to talk to her tht I will came in n lay down on the bed chit chatting n gossipping wth her n my sibs....only when the door is open..if not, NO ENTRY!!!

its a simple manners that some people just slip out of their mind to teach their children....hmppp...

so, for ME, whatever it is, MY ROOM IS SACRED!!NO ENTRY WITHOUT PERMISSION OR INVITATION!!! N I hope my son would not do such things some day...