better pay now than later

I just bought a brand new cars eat for the unborn baby...it come in a very big box n delivered to the office and cause quite a fiasco at my office...what could possibly be inside the box that Pn Qay bought...most of them are quite right...its a car seat...





the car seat I bought during a sale...cheaper maaa..but with rear and forward facing seat, with 5 safety harness point, retractable to recline position and its for newborn to 4yrs old..it come with baby cushion but i already bought the Kiddopotamus head n body support as  extra support...



some of the comments made just make me tisk tisk tisk alone bcause of the comments made just show how many parents take safety as a non important things..some of them said, " why do u need a  new car seat?Zaffan's pnya kan ada?pakai la yg tuh..kan dia dah besar.suruh la dia ddk atas kerusi je?", or " alaaa lmbt lg bby kuar...pgg je la ms bby tak boleh?" or " alaaa perlu ke beli car seat?"


for me, Car seat is a necessity for my baby...even when zaffran's was in my tummy I already bought a carrier baby seat for him for me to use..first of all bcause, Im driving to work alone, n need to send him to the nursery, 2ndly its bcause of safety that is the most important thing...


Taking care of paeds ward make me met and see pt who is the outcome of  parents' negligence for the safety of their kid..one case that I met, a 5 yr old girl, who was paralysed and on oxygen support machine all tru her life due to her inability to breath on her own n get enough oxygen dt she was thrown to the dashboard of her parents car when she was 9months old when the car crashed. She was held by her mom on her lap... and another kid, had brain damage also when the car crashed and she was thrown to the windscreen, at the age of 5 months. Also was held by her mom.The children survive the accidents, grows up ,  but not as normal kids the way each parents hope and pray as the long term effect of a 5seconds tragedy that just wait to happen to anybody....


Remembering how depressing the parents are taking care of the child, seeing the paralysed child being depressed and keep on biting on her fingers till they are bleeding and turned to gangrene and make her fingers need to be cut or some of them are being " gigit smpi putus" as a results of her being depressed seeing her little sister able to move and talk, walk, play when she's only able to lay down and stare at others, just makes me prefer to spend extra money for my kid safety today than be sorry later on.. those images of the kid that has been imprinted in my mind, just show how your negligence or lack of effort and knowledge can cause you more than money could buy...


I have  been amazed by how some parents esp mom transport their child. Some of my friends, just put their child in a basket and strap the basket to the safety belt in the front seat of a car. ANd the child just lay their unprotected in case anything happend to them..they could be thrown away, or the glass could just shatter and fall onto them and hurt then badly or blind them. Some just put the kid on the back seat and strap to the seatbelt...a baby, strapped to a seatbelt that was made for an adult...and one mom said to me, she just put her child on her lap and drive to work..dailyyy!! OH MOY GOSH!!!I just can't imagine that...and these people are actually not those uneducated people but people that I worked with or know that actually gone to Uni and get a degree etc...but their ignorance, could pay a high price for the child..if nothing happen, Alhamdulillah..but if something did happened?nauzubillah.....


even though Zaffran is already 2 and can actually seat with the safety belt on in the front seat, but I prefer to strap him to the car seat...1st bcause of safety..2ndly, he will distract me while driving when he's not in the mood to sit properly, he will stand, and tries to goes back to and fro to the back seat that makes me just worries that if I brake hard he will stumble and fall into me and cause me to lose concentrations while driving and cause accidents...3rd, bcause he will throw tantrum or wanting to stand up if he sit in the front seat as he cannot see all the trucks and cranes, bulldozers that we passed on the way back home as his view is being blocked by the dashboard..its better for him to sit on his car seat for me and his good.


I find training him in the car seat since baby is quite rewarding...now he will automatically sit on his car seat and put on his shoulder strap by himself, tries to put the buckle by himself without a fuss as when he was smaller..eventhough sometimes he will holler bcause he didnt want to sit on the seat or he wanted something or he's just throwing tantrums or just wanted to breastfeed there n then, at least he's strapped to the seat and could not distract me driving..I just kept a deaf ears when he cries or whine..or I play his fave music or just tries to entertain him by asking him things or showing him things along the way tru the 5km journey..I had some incidence when I had to stop as he was crying to hard. 


But as tru times, I had found the trick to keep him calm..either by bringing his fave toys or trucks, or books or just keep some snacks in the car that I can easily grab and feed him along the way. ANd by time, he's the one that decide, which toys or book that he wants to bring in the car..and by the end of the week, I had to haul all of his things n books back into the house as my car already looks like a wreck strewn with kids stuff...sigh....the price to pay for having a kid in the car...


anyway,being extra careful doesnt brings you harm..it rewards you...I'm trying my best for my children safety...at least I can say, I already tried my best and the rest I leave in Allah's hand...